All my posts so far are about the good things that I have experienced in Brazil. But life is not this: I have experienced several things that have been bothering me, and I think it’s fair to share them here, objectively.
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Do you eat dogs?
The very first question that one of my Brazilian friends asked me, before even asking me about my studies, age, why I’m interested in Portuguese, why I came to Brazil, my family etc, was, “Do Chinese people eat dogs?” I was expecting it, to be honest, but not from him, so soon, so unexpected. But he was asking me, so I said yes. Then he said, “Do you eat dogs?” When I told him that I didn’t want to talk about it, he kept insisting. I didn’t know what to say.
Same thing happened countless times. I guess people were interested, but every time that I answered them honestly, I could see that disapproving expression on their face and I know they are looking at me and Chinese people differently. It makes me very uncomfortable.
This morning I went to a workshop taught by my host mum. During coffee break, one of the people there, after learning that I’m Chinese, asked me the same question. After seeing that same expression on his face, I told him that just like Brazilians eat people, Chinese people eat dogs. But it’s not like everyone in China eats dogs, and it’s not like every Brazilian eat people (cannibalism). It is true though, that some original tribes still practice cannibalism. Some cultures eating cows is unholy, and some cultures eating pork is disrespectful, some cultures catch and kill whales, and some cultures kill bulls. Then he said, “but dogs are pets, how can you eat a pet, part of your family, like your brother and sister?” I think he was going too far, so I said, “Some people have pet fish, but they also eat fish and seafood; some people have pet chicken, but they eat chicken; some people have pet birds, but they eat birds.” Eating doesn’t mean maltreatment, eating doesn’t mean that you don’t respect dogs, and eating doesn’t mean that eaters are cruel or uncivilized.
The other day we were having churrasco, the Brazilian BBQ, and one Brazilian boy jokingly said to me, “ah, since Miranda’s here, let’s also BBQ a dog.” To me, that was extremely offensive, insensitive and disrespectful. It hurts.
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You have slanted eyes.
I have never seen people doing this until I arrived in Brazil. Everyone I met knows this, and would do this to me if I tell them that my name is Miranda (a Brazilian name), while I’m having an Asian face.
Okay, I accept it, because some people do have eyes pushed back, ie. slanted eyes. But what I’m not very comfortable about is how everyone thinks that all Asian people have eyes pushed back, especially when it is mostly Japanese people (and only some Japanese people) have eyes like that.
One day a Brazilian said to me, while pushing his eyes back (like this picture), “Ah, you feel at home now, right?” That was just so irritating to me and it didn’t make any sense.

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Why do Asian people look the same?
One day one of my Brazilian friends asked me, “Miranda, why do Asian people look the same?” I smiled and told her, because we are so comfortable with our own ethnicity that it is hard for us to distinguish the ethnicity that’s different from ours. For example, when I first arrived in Australia, I thought two of the girls looked the same and I couldn’t distinguish one from the other. Over time, after living in Australia for a long time, I could tell that people are different, everyone is unique.
Then I explained to her, to make sure that she doesn’t feel ignorant: For my parents who haven’t lived in Western world, it is sometimes not that easy for them to tell one of my American friends from the other. Then she said, “ugh, your parents don’t know the difference! But we have different colors of eyes and hair.” It sounded to me as if my parents were not so intelligent, and that the fact that she couldn’t distinguish Asian people from each other is because we all look alike.
It was a lot of work for me to explain to her, in Portuguese, that it is because of the “cross-race” effect, that we are “trained” and so used to seeing people of our own ethnicity that it makes hard for us to identify people from the other ethnicity.
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You are Japa.
I have mentioned about this term before. Brazilians usually call all Asian people “Japa” because they have a strong Japanese influence, mainly from migration for more than a century from Japan.
But when “Japa” becomes a “nickname” for someone, when this name is being used instead of their own name, then it is not funny anymore. Luckily, I haven’t adopted any nicknames, but I know people who are called by that, and people feel so comfortable calling that name that it becomes their name in class.
I think it’s unacceptable.
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What’s your religion?
Apart from the dog question, people would ask me, “What’s your religion?” as they would ask everyone, I believe. I usually say to them, “I don’t have a religion.” Then I usually get a surprised face, or a follow up question, “Then if you have a problem, who do you talk to?”
I talk to my parents, friends, or I write it in my diary.
“How can you not have a religion?”
I almost felt like not having a religion means that I am uncultured, that I’m unclean somehow. At least that’s the impression that the people I have talked to has given me.
But for me, I don’t believe in certain things that other people believe in. I have my philosophy of life that is sufficient for me to hold my moral standards, and I have ways to release my stress.
Not everyone has to be religious, just like not everyone has to be Christian, or Catholic, or Muslim, or Jewish, etc. And I shouldn’t be judged, in one way or another.
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It is often difficult to look at other culture without a pair of glasses because we are human, and as humans within a social context, we have beliefs and cultural practices that affect our view of other cultures. Stereotyping, assumption, and judging happen all the time. When we are being ignorant, it is important to realize that other people might get hurt. It might not be a big deal in our culture, but to other people it means that dignity and fame are destroyed and mocked.
Some of these comments, questions and jokes are due to ignorance, but some, are purposeful. Because of the long distance, 10507 miles or 16905.76 kilometers between Brasilia and Beijing, as well as the language barrier, people in both countries don’t have much knowledge of the other. When confusion comes, people assume and it is wrong.
I have a dream, I wish more Brazilians would one day visit China and get to know more about the culture, the good and the bad, similar or distant to the Brazilian culture, agreed or disagreed, communication is crucial, understanding is essencial.
I know as long as I’m here and as long as I show them my face, these questions would pop up again, and I would probably get upset as usual. But I hope that every time that I explain to them, more people would understand where I come from, and treat it with respect.